I marked my birthday in the bubbly period of one of the festivals highly celebrated (Christmas). December is a great month because of the cheer that it brings but it also marks the end of a year which calls for a reflection. My birthday was on a Saturday, but on the day before (Friday) I felt so elated, it was all sunny (I love sunny days) and I knew it was the start of a good year to come. So on that Friday night, we hang out with a close friend and we had a conversation that made me introspect on the lessons that I have learned over the twenty-something years. Here are a few of them.
Invest in yourself and give yourself exposure
After I finished campus, I wanted to be part of a tribe that could help me grow. I thank God a close friend of mine introduced to me to a Leadership program called Lapid Leaders Africa. I got to formulate my values, strengths, weaknesses and got to learn that I could embrace my story. There's a lot more to that program and it happened to be my best experience that year. Check it out on Facebook or Instagram.
Invest in yourself with the resources you have and make the most of your potential.
Kick away anything that is not important
The book ‘The subtle art of not giving a fuck’ is one great book that I have read. We are surrounded by situations and people that make us want to care about things that seem right but they could even not matter to us. We consume and embrace a script from other people who aren’t even aware of its reverberation. So we chase things that don’t even matter to us and they eat into our mental health. From this book, I pick the point that caring about what is true and important to ourselves is key to a good life.
It's important to be authentic even if it comes with a cost. But it will be life-changing and you will be proud of making meaningful choices. I suggest you read the book ‘The subtle art of not giving a fuck’.
Talking to people
Most times, I’d rather enjoy a hot cup of tea and YouTube than be out. I find it more convenient. I challenged myself to put myself out there and talk to people. So I went for a number of events last year and I networked with people, knew a little more about them and added knowledge about different things. Putting yourself out there to meet people can be very rewarding, especially because that’s how you learn from people, start connections and get opportunities.
Getting a mentor(s) also is great especially because they guide you in certain areas of life, complementing your journey.
Share with people. Don’t wilt away because you feel alone. Talk to me:) I promise we will go through what you are going through together.
Make reading something you really like
Books have hidden knowledge and wisdom. They also broaden your perspective and also give you an opportunity to think critically. It is important to pause and reflect after reading because it lets you think what the information you've read means to you and how you can apply it. One thing I like about reading is that I get to think for myself and journal my thoughts on what I have read.
I usually like to write a list of the books that I will read and classify them into categories depending on what areas I want to learn.
Take care and protect yourself.
Sometimes the downside of life can beat us up and interfere with how we see ourselves. You got to remember that you are different from what you do.
Acknowledge your values and live them as they guide your behaviors. Practice ways of taking care of yourself(self-care).
It's easy to give up on something when it becomes hard, but that just forms a bad habit of starting things and not finishing them. It also wastes time and money to start something and not go through with it to the end.
Commit to something that matters to you. Commitment requires discipline when things get hard but you get to feel so good when you complete something you started even when it became hard.
Regrets are okay.
They mean you acknowledge where you went wrong. Learn from them but don’t get stuck with the past.
Don't just consume things, pause, think, criticize, question, create as you experience.
Have fun as you live because life is happening right now.